Sugguested | Topic: Pornography

Hide or Seek: When Men Get Real With God About Sex

Freeman, John. Hide or Seek: When Men Get Real With God About Sex. New Growth Press, 2014.

In today’s world, men struggle to understand the purpose, place, and practice of sex in their lives. Cultural messages have combined with personal brokenness to lead a growing number of men – Christian and non-Christian alike –  into engaging in and becoming enslaved to all kinds of sexual brokenness (lust, pornography, adultery, etc). In this book, John Freeman, the President of Harvest USA, helps men understand the never –ending cycle of defeat and shame that hinders men from being the husbands, fathers, and friends God has made them to be. Freeman takes readers intoon a journey to discover how the Gospel and God’s love speaks to these hidden areas of life in ways that bring the true freedom that men desire. This a powerful book that all men, husbands, and fathers should read. It would serve as a great text for a men’s small group.

Available in the CPYU Resource Center.

Sexual Detox: A Guide for Guys Who Are Sick of Porn

Challies, Tim. Sexual Detox: A Guide for Guys Who Are Sick of Porn. CreateSpace Publishing, 2010.

We can expect that the number of men who struggle with pornography will continue to increase at breakneck speed. Tim Challies offers men a plan to that invites God to reboot themselves and detox from the lying/addictive pull and power of pornography. The book will help all men – single or married – to become the pure, loving, attentive, and sacrificial husbands God desires them to be.

When Your Husband is Addicted to Pornography: Healing Your Wounded Heart

Tiede, Vicki. When Your Husband is Addicted to Pornography: Healing Your Wounded Heart. New Growth Press, 2012.

Any wife who has discovered her husband’s addiction to pornography experiences feelings of shock, disbelief, heartache, anguish, inadequacy, lonliness, shame, and betrayal. Speaking out of her experience, Vicki Tiede walks women toward God and away from despair, taking them on a journey through daily readings and questions on six important topics: hope, surrender, trust, identity, brokenness, and forgiveness. While healing will most likely be a long process, God promises to walk with wives through their pain and woundedness. This book offers questions and daily readings that can be used by individuals or in groups.

Available in the CPYU Resource Center.

Pornified: How Pornography is Damaging Our Lives, Our Relationships, and Our Families

Paul, Pamela. Pornified: How Pornography is Damaging Our Lives, Our Relationships, and Our Families. St. Martin’s Griffin, 2006.

While almost a decade old, this book makes that case that our hyper-pornified culture is destroying individuals and families, and distorting how children view sex and sexuality. Pamela Paul is an engaging writer who shares insights from research and interviews on just how costly pornography is. While this book is not written from a Christian perspective, Paul’s research and analysis is compelling.

Surfing for God: Discovering the Divine Desire Beneath Sexual Struggle

Cusick, Michael John. Surfing for God: Discovering the Divine Desire Beneath Sexual Struggle. Thomas Nelson, 2012.

Cusick’s insights help readers understand how porn struggles begin, what to do to prevent them, and most importantly, how to overcome the compulsion once it begins. In the end, this powerful book shows us all how the barrier built by porn addiction can become a bridge to abundant life.

 

Wired for Intimacy. How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain

Struthers, William M. Wired for Intimacy. How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain. Intervarsity Press, 2009.

Pornography is powerful. Our contemporary culture as been pornified, and it shapes our assumptions about identity, sexuality, the value of women and the nature of relationships. Countless Christian men struggle with the addictive power of porn. But common spiritual approaches of more prayer and accountability groups are often of limited help. In this book neuroscientist and researcher William Struthers explains how pornography affects the male brain and what we can do about it. Because we are embodied beings, viewing pornography changes how the brain works, how we form memories and make attachments. By better understanding the biological realities of our sexual development, we can cultivate healthier sexual perspectives and interpersonal relationships. Struthers exposes false assumptions and casts a vision for a redeemed masculinity, showing how our sexual longings can actually propel us toward sanctification and holiness in our bodies. With insights for both married and single men alike, this book offers hope for freedom from pornography.

Closing the Window: Steps to Living Porn Free by Tim Chester

Chester, Tim. Closing the Window: Steps to Living Porn Free. InterVarsity Press, 2010.

With internet pornography shaping multiple generations as a result of increased prevalence, acceptance, and access, Tim Chester brings good theology to bear on the quest to break free from pornography’s deadly and addictive grip. The steps are practical, biblical, and do-able. This is a book that should be read and then kept at arm’s length by every parent, youth worker, pastor, and counselor.

Available in the CPYU Resource Center.